Friday, May 25, 2018

Women and the Church...

Hey friends! 
This article is about the role of women in the church. There is so much discussion and study right now going on about what women can and cannot do in worship and in the church family. I have a lot of thoughts on the subject but will let this article speak because I think it has important things to say about how we are to interact in the church setting as women and men. Blessings!

What is the role of women in the church?
The Austin Stone Community Church holds to a Biblical Complementarian view concerning the role of men and women. In short, we believe that men and women were created by God to be both equal in value and dignity, but that He gave us differing roles, in order that we may best reflect both the equality and differing roles within the Trinity. This is a view in contrast to the Egalitarian Position which states that God created male and female as equal in all respects and makes no distinction between woman and man.
We realize that this is a divisive topic within churches today. If you don’t think so, read the following passage:
1 CORINTHIANS 14:34–35 (ESV)
34 THE WOMEN SHOULD KEEP SILENT IN THE CHURCHES. FOR THEY ARE NOT PERMITTED TO SPEAKBUT SHOULD BE IN SUBMISSIONAS THE LAW ALSO SAYS. 35 IF THERE IS ANYTHING THEY DESIRE TO LEARNLET THEM ASK THEIR HUSBANDS AT HOME. FOR IT IS SHAMEFUL FOR A WOMAN TO SPEAK IN CHURCH.

This passage is one of the most inflammatory passages that we can read in our postmodern culture. It divides. Some of you are wondering why we as a church should take a position on an issue that divides and upsets people. The reason is precisely because it divides. We must seek the unity of the body of Christ. The other reason is that, if the Bible speaks about these issues, we shouldn’t be too cowardly to talk about them. Instead, we ought to say, “How can we talk about this in a gracious, humble way for the purpose of building up and creating unity?” We have to talk about it because the Bible speaks about it. With all of that said, I want you to know something about our church. I want you to know that this church leadership has laboriously studied the role of women in the church through the Scriptures, and the elders have taken great measure to honor, respect and redeem the value of women in the church, which for centuries has been abused. I’d like to expound upon this text, and, in doing so, let you know the heart behind the stance we’re taking as a biblical Complementarian church.

What in the world does Paul mean here? Let me disarm your greatest concern, so that you’re not so angry and so that you’ll pay attention to the rest of what I’m going to say. This does NOT mean that women can’t teach, speak, pray or take any leadership within the church. Paul has already taught in 1 Corinthians 11 that women can lead out in prayer and that they could “prophecy” or declare the Word of God in the church, as long as they do it under the cultural display of submitting to the elders of the church and to their husbands (by wearing a head covering in the case of their context). So, Paul cannot mean that without qualification women must be silent in the churches. What, then, does he mean? The gospel had done a remarkable thing. When sin entered into the world, what was the curse that Adam and Eve, Man and Woman received? In Genesis 3:16, the curse that God gave Eve was, “your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”

The woman’s curse was that she will always try to find her significance from a man in a world where men are cursed to always desire to dominate women.
We’ve seen this curse play out throughout the history of mankind, haven’t we? Throughout the bulk of man’s history, women were seen as second class citizens, often treated as property, only seen as objects of men’s sexual fulfillment and as necessary for procreation. Christian Conservatives, you may have a bad taste in your mouth for feminism, but I tell you, in this fallen world, feminism was necessary. Feminism failed miserably, as I will talk about later, but early on, it was necessary. It was necessary because the church failed in fighting for the equality of women. The church failed in fighting for equal work and equal pay. The church failed in fighting against the brutal oppression of women. But what we see in the Corinthian church is that the gospel came into this fallen world and reclaimed equality for women when injustice and the curse of sin had taken it away. It reclaimed freedom for women when tyranny had taken it away. Though in every other formal gathering women were forbidden to speak, in the Christian gathering, women were free to pray and prophesy. So the gospel did a remarkable thing in reclaiming equality and freedom for women. But it didn’t stop there. It was doing something else.

The Gospel wasn’t merely protecting the value of women’s equality; it was also protecting the value of gender difference.
Protecting the value of gender difference is where feminism fails. Feminism has been necessary, but where feminism goes too far, or doesn’t go far enough, depending on how you look at it, is when it tries to achieve equality among the sexes by removing every distinction between male and female. If equality in the eyes of God truly means the doing away of every distinction, God would not have created us male and female. He would have created us neuter. If that’s what God wanted, He could have done that. But, He created male from the dust of the ground and made him independent from any other living creature. When God created Eve, He created her not independently from dust, but dependently from the side of Adam to show her dependence on her husband to lead her, protect her and provide for her.

God created us male and female with distinctions in how we are meant to operate in this world and with each other. Man to be independent and Woman to be dependent. But, sin came into the world and changed everything. Sin distorted and exaggerated the way that God designed us. “Eve, your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” Woman was created to be content and satisfied when she lived in dependence on her husband to lead her, protect her and provide for her. But sin came in and exaggerated that design by causing her to feel like she has no significance in this world unless she has a man. Man was created to feel alive and satisfied as he lives in independence to lead out and provide, but sin came in and exaggerated that design by turning independence into tyranny and dominance over women.
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This is why we needed the gospel. The gospel came and spoke significance back into women and reclaimed equality and freedom for them. The gospel came to teach men how to properly lead in servanthood and humility, not dominance. The gospel came and destroyed all the wrong distinctions in gender created by sin. However, it’s not trying to destroy ALL distinction, because there is a right and a true distinction that God intended from the beginning.

The distinction is in the call of eldership within the church, which is reserved for qualified men only, not women.
1 TIMOTHY 3:1–7 (ESV)
QUALIFICATIONS FOR OVERSEERS
1 THE SAYING IS TRUSTWORTHY: IF ANYONE ASPIRES TO THE OFFICE OF OVERSEERHE DESIRES A NOBLE TASK. 2 THEREFORE AN OVERSEER MUST BE ABOVE REPROACHTHE HUSBAND OF ONE WIFESOBER-MINDEDSELF-CONTROLLEDRESPECTABLE,HOSPITABLEABLE TO TEACH, 3 NOT A DRUNKARDNOT VIOLENT BUT GENTLENOT QUARRELSOMENOT A LOVER OF MONEY. 4 HE MUST MANAGE HIS OWN HOUSEHOLD WELLWITH ALL DIGNITY KEEPING HIS CHILDREN SUBMISSIVE, 5 FOR IF SOMEONE DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO MANAGE HIS OWN HOUSEHOLDHOW WILL HE CARE FOR GODS CHURCH? 6 HE MUST NOT BE A RECENT CONVERTOR HE MAY BECOME PUFFED UP WITH CONCEIT AND FALL INTO THE CONDEMNATION OF THE DEVIL. 7 MOREOVERHE MUST BE WELL THOUGHT OF BY OUTSIDERSSO THAT HE MAY NOT FALL INTO DISGRACEINTO A SNARE OF THE DEVIL.

The Bible teaches that the office of elder is reserved only for qualified men. Paul is affirming that here in these verses. He says women are to keep silent. He already said three chapters back that women can pray and prophesy, so he doesn’t mean completely silent. So...silent when and where? What was Paul talking about in the previous verses? He said in verse 32, that when prophets spoke, their prophecy had to be weighed by other prophets. The practice of worship at this time was in a synagogue-style. In a Jewish synagogue, instead of having a regular preacher week after week like we do here at our church, they had many different travelling teachers that would stop in to speak, sometimes two or three of them. As you can imagine, the thing to be concerned about in this style of worship was keeping doctrinal integrity. You ultimately never knew what the prophet would speak. So, each synagogue had a group of male elders that sat in the front row and would verbally weigh prophecy that was spoken. If they completely agreed with what a prophet said, they would say “amen, amen.” They would affirm, deny, or qualify the prophecy.
This is what the Bible is teaching in these verses; when the elders are verbally weighing the prophecy for the congregation, women must keep silent because the office of elders is reserved for qualified men who have been called to serve as elders. One clear distinction between men and women in the church that the gospel is preserving is in the duty of the elder to guard doctrine. We see it in the tradition of the church, and we see it here in this passage. We also see it in other places like Titus 1.

But, some of us still find this difficult and hard to swallow. What do you mean only men can be elders? Why can’t women do everything men can do?
This may seem like a legitimate question, but we know instinctively that there are plenty of things men can do that women can’t do, and there are plenty of things women can do that men can’t do. Our biology is an obvious example. No matter how much men may want to give birth to a child, we can’t. It’s an impossibility. It’s a role that God has designed and reserved for only women to be able to play. We already see this reality established by God in nature, but he’s also establishing this reality in the church. But why? Why does he reserve eldership only to men? He does it because we’re all called to be like Jesus. He does it because both men and women are called to be like Jesus. My answer may sound strange, but let me explain it to you.

We learned back in our marriage series that a Christian marriage is like a drama being played out for the world, in which the husband plays the role of Christ, and the wife plays the role of the church. Husbands are called to love the wife just as Christ has loved the church and gave Himself up for her. Marriage is a special place in which men are called to display Jesus to the world. But the calling to display Jesus to the world isn’t given just given to men. Both men and women are called to reflect Jesus to the world. So the question is, “Is there a special place in which God is calling women to display a certain aspect of Jesus to the world?” The answer is yes. It’s in the church. By reserving eldership for men, what God is saying is, that even though you’re equal in dignity and equal in personhood to man, I want you to humble yourself and submit under the leadership of male elders. In doing so, you will show Jesus to this world. How does this humility and submission show Jesus to this world? Because it’s exactly what Jesus did, as described in Philippians 2.
PHILIPPIANS 2:5–8 (ESV)
5 HAVE THIS MIND AMONG YOURSELVESWHICH IS YOURS IN CHRIST JESUS, 6 WHOTHOUGH HE WAS IN THE FORM OFGODDID NOT COUNT EQUALITY WITH GOD A THING TO BE GRASPED, 7 BUT MADE HIMSELF NOTHINGTAKING THE FORM OF A SERVANTBEING BORN IN THE LIKENESS OF MEN. 8 AND BEING FOUND IN HUMAN FORMHE HUMBLED HIMSELF BY BECOMING OBEDIENT TO THE POINT OF DEATHEVEN DEATH ON A CROSS.

Jesus Christ, in personhood and dignity, was absolutely equal with God the Father, but He did not regard this equality with God as something to be grasped, as something for Him to clench with a tight fist. Instead, He let it go and emptied Himself. He humbled Himself and submitted to the will of the Father, even at a great cost to Himself. And so, if you’re a woman, that’s the calling you have received in the special place of the church. You should reflect Jesus to this world. Even though you are absolutely equal in dignity and in personhood with man, let go of that equality when it comes to eldership. In humility, submit under the authority of qualified male elders in your church. But, if your ambition is to preserve your reputation and/or your place in this world, you’ll completely miss this.

Women, listen to me. There is a side of Jesus, there is something about Jesus, that, if you don’t display it, the world won’t see it.
This is so hard because it’s so counter-worldly. But that is the nature of the gospel. God tells men within the special place of marriage to pursue leadership and authority, not by dominance and tyranny, but by service, sacrifice, washing feet and dying. That is absolutely counter-cultural. The gospel tells women within the special place of the church to pursue equality and freedom, not by grasping for it, but through humility and obedience. Jesus said it in this way:
MATTHEW 16:24–25 (ESV)
24 THEN JESUS TOLD HIS DISCIPLES, “IF ANYONE WOULD COME AFTER MELET HIM DENY HIMSELF AND TAKE UP HIS CROSS AND FOLLOW ME. 25 FOR WHOEVER WOULD SAVE HIS LIFE WILL LOSE ITBUT WHOEVER LOSES HIS LIFE FOR MY SAKE WILL FIND IT.

The gospel tells us that we gain life by losing it. Men gain leadership and authority through sacrificial servanthood, and women gain equality and freedom through submission.
True harmony and communion will not be reached when we deny each other’s differences. It will only happen when we embrace one another’s differences. I want to give a practical application from verse 35:
1 CORINTHIANS 14:35 (ESV)
35 IF THERE IS ANYTHING THEY DESIRE TO LEARNLET THEM ASK THEIR HUSBANDS AT HOME. FOR IT IS SHAMEFUL FOR A WOMAN TO SPEAK IN CHURCH.

This may, at first, seem like another prohibition on women, but it’s really an indictment on men. Women should keep silent during the verbal weighing of prophecy in the church, because elders need to do their job. However, this is also saying that husbands need to do their job in the home. If you’re a husband, listen to me. This is a call for every one of you to be a theologian. What would you do, husband, if, after reading this article, your wife had a challenging thought and asks you a difficult theological question over dinner? Would you be equipped to answer her?

The fact of the matter is, for the most part, women pursue knowing the Scriptures and knowing Jesus a lot more than men do.
Husbands and single men, if you ever want to get married and be a good husband, learn to study the Scriptures. Become a good theologian. Take a Get Trained class. Women, you may be wondering, “How do I obey this verse if my husband’s an idiot? Does this mean I can’t ask my pastor any question?” Let me just say this: to the extent that you desire to circumvent the authority that the Scriptures have given your husband, you cut short the ability for your husband to recognize and obey his calling. It’s not whether you can or cannot speak to a pastor; rather, the question is, “Are you avoiding talking to your husband and not providing the opportunity and the gentle challenge for him to lead?”
I’d like to give you one last illustration. CS Lewis said once that the Church needs to look more like a ball- a ball in which the men and women of God are beautifully dancing with one another. Here’s the thing about ballroom dancing... one partner has to lead and the other partner has to follow. Otherwise, the beauty of the choreography turns into awkward bumping into each other, and the grace of each step that leads into another step turns into the painful stepping on each other’s toes. God has designed this dance between male and female, and He has called the man to lead and the woman to follow. Here’s the understanding that expert dancers have, that we all need to have.

The greater the expertise of the female dancer, the greater her realization that the male needs to lead, even if he’s a lesser dancer than her. The greater the expertise of the male dancer, the greater is his realization that he must lead at the pace and style which the woman can follow.
And so, women, the greater your maturity in Christ, the more you ought to realize that your husband needs to lead, even though you think him to be less mature than you. And men, the greater your maturity in Christ, the more you ought to realize that you need to gently and sacrificially lead your wife as you serve her. So, men, as long as you seek to lead through dominance, and, women, as long as you seek to grasp after your equality, our ball will look like an ugly 8th grade dance. However, if we each embrace our calling, we will be able to dance a dance that displays the beauty of Jesus to this world.

Saturday, April 21, 2018

Come then Go! Just One...


Could it be that simple?
Jesus says two important things: Come to Me and then Go out to others.

We seem to get so distracted by side church issues that we lose our focus on what is most important. I think that is probably the way that the evil one crafts his plans and smirks at his success in our distraction.

Love God.
Love people.
Make disciples.

Simple and hard and so worth our focus.

Luke 10:27
He answered, "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'"


Loving God is the start. 
Be in the Word. 
Talk to Him. 
Listen to Him. 
Be led by Him.
He helps us to be molded into people with hearts that can love the world around us with unselfishness and abandon.

Most of us stop there. I sure have.

When we get to the making disciples part we slow down and shake and make excuses and look away. But, the more I dwell in His Word and gain strength and knowledge and movement of His Spirit in my heart and mind the more that I believe that I can witness to His goodness and His saving plan not only for myself but for ALL who would believe.

Matt. 28:18-20
Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

What if each of us in our humble, even scared minds asked God to just give us one person to study with and share the hope of Jesus with? 

Just one. Imagine. 
Luke 9:60- Go and proclaim the Kingdom of God.

Just one Father. Just one. I pray You show us just one.

Blessings! Amy






Monday, March 26, 2018

West Texas Beauty...

We took off for West Texas a week or so ago seeking solitude and clearing of our minds. We were looking for time to just be together while drinking good coffee and warming in front of crackling fireplaces. The sun on our shoulders in the afternoons and bare feet in sandals after the winter was a nice bonus. Personally, I was hoping for the viewing of gorgeous quiet sunrises and sunsets. 
God did not disappoint.

Finding peace and quiet and down time is so important. Putting some distance in between the craziness and concerns in our lives and stepping back to breathe deeply is healing. Time to focus on Who calms our hearts and gives meaning in a world that screams chaos is mandatory. I want to have that margin in my everyday life. Trying to find the quiet and balance in our day to day schedules is a challenge, but a must. I need to open my eyes and notice every day that our own front yard sunsets are pretty fantastic. That might be a start.


The lovely Rio Grande in Big Bend Ranch State Park. 
Tranquil little churches in small Texas towns. 

The majesty of the sun setting.
We enjoyed long conversations and breakfast in some homey coffee shops. 
This one was a sweet bonus. They served waffles. Yum.

The Ocotillo's were out and shining in all their glory. What a beautiful gift.


Sunset over the mountains surrounding Marathon, Texas.

The Gage Hotel dining room. What a peaceful place.
The Gage.



Jefe and the chief at Maverick Inn in Alpine, Texas. 
A hidden little gem you should try out sometime. Not terribly fancy but quirky western. 



Maverick Inn, Alpine, Texas
The Holland Hotel. Alpine, Texas.
Want a ghosty hotel? This is a good one.
Quiet streets in Alpine
So, I hope you had a good spring get away to clear out the cobwebs of your brain like we did. 
Laying by the pool on fake grass was even fun. :)
Here's to watching our own sunrises and sunsets in our own yards. Maybe we should put a few chairs out in the yard and our neighbors might mosey over to enjoy it with us. I like that thought. 
Blessings! Amy

Saturday, March 10, 2018

Pray for Me...

And I will pray for you.
This prayer.

What if we all diligently prayed this prayer for one another?
This would be a world changing prayer.

"I pray that you will be blessed by God that whenever you speak that He will give you the words to lovingly and fearlessly make known the mystery and hope of the gospel of Jesus." 

What a prayer. Really, what if we did?



Blessings! Amy

Wednesday, March 7, 2018

Legacy of Jesus Thoughts...

Just a thought that came to mind this morning.
You are documenting hope for future generations when you write down your Jesus thoughts and life experiences and scriptures that are dear to your heart.  I have already had one of our boys ask about wanting to have his grandmother's bible someday. I pray that there will be a day that our children will treasure the bible I read from because it will have drawings and words written down that meant something to me and that helped me live the life God called me to.

I believe that the scriptures that we write down and journal will be invaluable to our children in the future. They will be a great witness to what we felt life was about and a timetable of living for God and for His Kingdom.

I know that it takes time and it is more work than pulling scripture up on your phone quickly but there is something about even just taking 30 minutes of slow dwelling with God in a Bible that you hold in your hands and taking the time to write about Him. (Even just a few words.)  I pray that when I am gone that our children and grandchildren will see truths and gain spiritual knowledge and courage from what we have taken time to write down and witness to about God.




Dwelling in the Word is indeed a grand adventure...
Maybe it is work at first. Yes. But then you see it is alive and relevant to your life.
Then a little fire ignites. You become thirsty for it. It changes your perspective on everyday happenings.  You begin to see how the Spirit that lives within you lives and moves and has it's being in you.  Amazing.
Acts 17:24 “The God who made the world and everything in it is the Lord of heaven and earth and does not live in temples built by human hands. 25 And he is not served by human hands, as if he needed anything. Rather, he himself gives everyone life and breath and everything else. 26 From one man he made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. 27 God did this so that they would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from any one of us. 28 ‘For in him we live and move and have our being.’ As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are his offspring.’
Blessings! Amy

Tuesday, March 6, 2018

Jan's Vanilla Almond Granola...

Good morning! I have been making this scrumptious granola for several years. It is my sister in law's recipe and so many people have asked for it that I thought I would post on here and direct people to the blog to copy.  Beware though...this stuff is quite addicting.

My sweet sister Jan...the master cook, wise nurse, camp secretary that holds all things CBH together, exemplary mama, etc. I love her.

You can see how "loved" this recipe has been. :) I hope that you can read it cause today there is no time to type it out. Sorry!! You have to work hard to see the recipe to gain the mouth watering goodness. Ha! Or, something like that. I need to make a batch of it for comfort food today as I pull out all of our tax papers to start working on them. Oh happy day. Not.
So, there you go! Enjoy!

Here is some more inspiration straight from the Word of God. Love this verse. It sure was a comfort to read this morning. God gives true joy to His people through the hope in Jesus and His story.

 This is just a sweet bonus picture. :)
Blessings! Amy

Friday, March 2, 2018

New Life...

The verse I read today from the daily Bible reading was this: 
Jesus gave us His life to save our lives. 
We also witnessed new life coming into the world this week.
 Sweet Saylor was born early Wed. morning. 
 We are thrilled with the addition of another precious granddaughter. 
There is a sweet God story that we were blessed to witness that night.  Our daughter in love was having pretty good contractions but not regular and the nurse was saying that she would have to go home from the hospital and wait it out there because she was not dilating quickly enough.  She was concerned at how she would know when to come back and was already in a lot of pain. So, our son laid his hands on her and the baby and prayed that God would please speed this up and make more happen because we felt she absolutely did not need to go back home at this point.

No kidding, she had two more contractions and her water broke probably 8 minutes after that prayer. Things sped up really quickly. God was so wonderful to hear us and we praise Him for that answered prayer.  It felt like a very thin place of contact with Him and I am thankful for all of us being blessed to witness it happen.

Prayer is so powerful and awesome. Sometimes I think we don't even think to ask for His help or blessing or comfort and I believe He is just waiting to come to our aid.  Thank you God for bringing this precious new life into the world. May she love you all her life and be a witness to Your goodness and love.
 Sister already loves her. :) 
 


 Sugar and spice and everything nice. 
Blessings! Amy

Tuesday, February 27, 2018

Farm Life and Family

Last weekend I had a special few days with my Mom and Dad. It was their birthday weekend.  My Dad turned 85. He is still going strong and working hard. Amazes me. He survived a terrible tractor accident a few years ago and managed to heal and get back to hard work.  He sure loves the farm life. Mom turned 83 and is doing good. What a joy to spend time with them.
 I love this tin wall. I would love to use some of it in my house! So cool.
 Sugar. The best dog around.

 We love you Mom and Dad! 
Happy Birthday!
Sweet granddaughter hugs are the BEST! 



 The sun creeping out as I was leaving Sunday morning.
Always lovely viewing the sunrise on their porch.
As we are about to add more children to this big family I spend a lot of time being thankful for the heritage of faith passed down and taught by our parents and the leadership and love for God they have shown.

I pray that we can continue to tell the stories of the good news of Jesus and that our grandchildren will still be telling about Him years into the future.

Won't it be amazing to all meet in Glory some day?
Ah...what a day that will be.

The Lord be exalted! Ps. 40:13

Blessings! Amy